Resentment and anger are powerful emotions that can lead us to lose control and say or do things we don’t mean. These feelings can lead us to inflict our own pain on someone else, can make us push away those we love, and resent those who seem to “have it all.” On the other hand, anger can be positive. It can force conversations around issues requiring social change/justice or help us push through a difficult or painful situation. By dealing with our own anger or resentment, we can learn valuable lessons in forgiveness and apologies. Meduza’s song “Lose Control” is about recognizing when our negative emotions are taking over as well as acting on feelings of compassion.
Key Lyrics: Why do I feel like I’m drowning / Like I’m running out of air, ah / Why do I feel like I’m falling / When I’m nowhere near the edge, ah / Just let me know / Can you be the one to hold and not let me go? / I need to know / Could you be the one to call when I lose control?
Questions: Who or what has made you feel angry? How did you deal with it? When have you felt resentful and been able to let the resentment go? When have you made someone else angry? How did this person forgive you?
Losing someone we love can evoke powerful emotions. Some people break down immediately and may put themselves back together right away. For others emotions simmer inside until finally, sometimes months or years later, they explode. In this SPIRIT issue a young man finds grief motivating his climb to reach the top of a mountain. Grief takes time to discover the ways a person is still with us, time for memories to inspire us rather than cause pain.
Key Lyrics: I used to be so happy but without you here I feel so low / I watched you as you left but I can never seem to let you go / …It’s buried deep inside me but I feel there’s something you should know / I will never forget you
Questions: When have you experienced the loss of a loved one? How did you deal with your grief? Why doesn’t ignoring feelings work when we lose someone we care about?
We cope with emotions, especially painful ones, in different ways. Difficult times can throw off our sense of self and purpose. Some people can’t get past the challenge, while others seem to embrace it, adjust, and move on. Painful experiences can actually be a time of growth; we get an idea of what we are capable of and how we handle things. This can actually deepen our sense of self and purpose. It also brings us closer to those around us and has the power to deepen our faith.
Key Lyrics: Don’t be so hard on yourself, no / Learn to forgive, learn to let go / Everyone trips, everyone falls / So don’t be so hard on yourself, no
Questions: What has surprised you lately? How has a painful experience changed your idea of who you are? What did you learn from it? How were you able to move on? How can you use your experience to help others going through something similar?