Music and the Gospel: “Love,” Lana Del Rey, 3rd Sunday of Lent

This week’s Spirit discusses relationships, dating, and What it means to be in a healthy relationship? The high school years are prime time for making friends and dating. Most of us spend those years within a wide circle of friends and, as we get older, we start to pair off into more exclusive relationships. When we date, we explore and set boundaries, expectations, and priorities. The song “Love” is about being in love and what can happen when we open ourselves up to experiencing love.

Key Lines: You get ready, you get all dressed up / To go nowhere in particular / Back to work or the coffee shop / Doesn’t matter cause it’s enough / To be young and in love / To be young and in love

Questions: What does love mean to you? How do you describe a healthy relationship? How do you identify boundaries between people? Who do you want to be within your circle of friends, family, or with a significant other?

Music and the Gospel: “Elastic Heart,” Sia, 5th Sunday of Lent

All relationships start out on a foundation of trust. We have a right to feel safe and secure. If we don’t, the relationship becomes toxic. Breaking trust changes not only how we view ourselves and others, but it can also leave permanent scars. Sometimes we have people we can turn to, people who will support and help us understand what happened. Other times we may be too scared to go to anyone for fear of judgement and blame. However, by dealing with the experience, we can eventually figure out a way to move past it and rebuild our trust in ourselves and others. Sia’s song is about surviving a difficult experience and finding peace within oneself.

Key Lyrics: And I will stay up through the night / Let’s be clear, I won’t close my eyes / And I know that I can survive / I walked through fire to save my life

Questions: When have you experienced betrayal? How did you handle the experience? Did you tell anyone about it? Why or why not? What helped you move on from the experience? How can you use the experience to help others who may be going through the same thing?

 

Music and the Gospel: “Better Place,” Rachel Platten

In high school people start to branch out from their groups of friends and often pair up. It’s a time to develop a sense of who you are and who you are with a significant other. Spirit discusses relationships this week, what it takes to create a strong and healthy relationship, and (eventually) a strong and healthy marriage. Our attitudes in the teen years can carry over into adult relationships: a kind, considerate attitude will lead to a kind and considerate relationship, whereas a mean attitude can lead to cruelty within a relationship. You become what you do.

Key Lyrics: I hold the love that you bring / But it feels like I’ve opened my eyes again / And the colors are golden and bright again / There’s a song in my heart, I feel like I belong / It’s a better place since you came along.

Questions: What does being in a relationship mean to you? What qualities do you think are important in relationships? What does “love” mean to you? How do you show your love to your family, friends, and significant other?

Music and the Gospel: “Photograph,” Ed Sheeran

Relationships can be hard, especially in high school.  This week’s issue focuses on relationships, how they can affect us, change us, and what can happen when they don’t work out.

Key lines: Loving can hurt / Loving can hurt sometimes / But it’s the only thing that I know / When it gets hard / You know it can get hard sometimes / It is the only thing that makes us feel alive

Questions: Think about a time when you really liked someone.  How did that make you feel?  Now think about a time you were hurt by someone you cared about.  What did you learn from that experience?  How did you deal with the situation?  How has it affected your relationships with other people or changed your perspective on future relationships?

Music and the Gospel: “Breakable,” Ingrid Michaelson; 4th Sunday of Easter

In “Breakable,” Ingrid Michaelson elaborates on how fragile our hearts are. Entering into relationship with others, whether it is friendship or romantic love, puts us in a vulnerable position because letting these people into our lives gives them the opportunity to both love and hurt us. God calls us to love others as we love ourselves. Remembering to love ourselves by making choices that keep us safe and healthy helps to protect our precious hearts and allows us to love God’s creation to the best of our ability.

Key Lyrics: Have you ever thought about what protects our hearts? / Just a cage of rib bones and other various parts. / So it’s fairly simple to cut right through the mess, / And to stop the muscle that makes us confess

Questions: Close your eyes and think of a time when you felt hurt or mistreated by someone you cared about. Stand up, and put your body into a position that represents how you felt in that experience. Shake it off. Now, think of a time when you felt genuinely loved by someone, comfortable in your skin and appreciated simply for being you. Put your body into a position that represents how being loved felt.